Introduction

I am Dr Zsófia Schuler, a certified couple and family therapist, pediatrician and health consultant.

I obtained my couple and family therapy certificate in 2019 at the Hungarian Family Therapy Association. My training therapist was Miklós Kovács – the former head of the Hungarian Family Therapy Association – and Gábor Radnay, a widely recognized family therapist. I did my autognosis with Dr. Piroska Komlósi and supervised with Gábor Radnay and Zoltán Iring. I am constantly expanding my methodological knowledge at conferences and continuative education. In addition, I obtained qualifications in specialized tools and methods (e.g. system chart, schema therapy, EFT) and specific problem groups (eating disorders, grief, infertility, treatment of sex problems, divorce, mosaic families).

Previously I helped couples and families with personal consultations. Currently, I do online couple and family therapy.

I aim to support and help families and couples who come to me. Difficulties can be solved by working together. I like to get to know and understand the functioning of the couples and families who come to me in depth. This is the only way to find the right solution for them! During therapy, families and couples develop new solutions. This creates an emotionally stable, safe space. In this way, they become the most perfect therapists for themselves and their relationships – in the long run.

What is couple and family therapy used for?

Everyone experiences difficult times in their lives. It is the same in a relationship or in family life. Certain changes – such as the period around the birth of a child or the problems that appear around adolescence – can put increased pressure on the family. In the same way, disputes may arise in a relationship, for cheating or other events that temporarily complicate the relationship.

In such cases working with a qualified professional can help – a lot. During therapy, the therapist and clients meet weekly or biweekly in the online space and participate in a discussion. After getting to know the problems, we determine the goal for which we will work together. Clients can also be assigned tasks in the interim periods, which help them achieve the desired change.

One of the most effective solutions for family or relationship problems is couple therapy and family therapy. When relationship difficulties appear, it is advisable for both members of the couple to participate in the consultation. During couple therapy, we focus on communication and actions between the two parties. Likewise, the involvement and joint work of all members of the family is also more effective in the case of a child showing behaviour problems or anxiety. This enhances to reveal the difficulty faster and can provide more effective help. Specialists dealing with families and couples believe that not only the individual’s but also the favourable environment’s development plays an important role in the improvement that lasts.

Couples therapy

What is couple therapy about?

A relationship of a couple is a special form of family relationship. Our family members we can not choose, but we specifically choose our partners – as a result of conscious and unconscious processes.

Following the initial romantic period, many things can affect the relationship. This forms it on a conscious and unconscious level. The family of origin, the patterns of the parents, the experiences of previous relationships, social expectations… It is not easy to focus on each other in the presence of many patterns and influences.

During the consultation with couples, the focus of attention is on solving a problem that affects the relationship.

It is often difficult to discuss and solve a problem between the two parties. The presence of a qualified helper creates a convenient environment for the couple to communicate and solve difficulties. It will become possible to develop other perspectives and a new kind of understanding. Listening to and understanding each other’s opinions and feelings will be the first change that will make all other solutions possible.

The therapeutic process helps the couple to gain a deeper understanding of themselves and their relationship and to assess their needs. It helps the couple to review and shape their relationship. The discovery and application of new solutions help the party – in the long run.

Couple therapy can be used perfectly for example for solving the following difficulties:

  • frequent arguments and fights
  • difficulties arising around childbearing, pregnancy and childbirth
  • medically unexplained infertility
  • cheating, unfaithfulness
  • if it is difficult to discuss something with each other
  • problems arising from a previous relationship
  • commitment issues
  • relationship conflict occurring in relation to the wider family

Family therapy

Why is family therapy important?

We are all born into a family. It is the first natural environment that surrounds us. Through our family, we learn to integrate into society, connect with others, experience intimacy, and assert our will. The family environment influences our abilities and expectations. If someone is lucky, it represents a secure foundation for becoming independent and starting a family. The family affects many areas of our lives (from work to the bedroom). It can be a resource, but it can also be the basis of fears and inhibitions. We can experience both in our lifetime.

The consultation with the family creates an opportunity to understand and deal with difficulties in a safe, supportive environment with the help of a trained specialist. Whether it’s about disputes between partners, spouses, or problems that arise during pregnancy, childbirth or raising children, the consultations help. They provide an opportunity for members to work together to understand and overcome their difficulties. They help to process losses and discover the resources in each other and in the environment. Thus an effective way of dealing with conflicts can be obtained.

The development of the genre of family therapy can be traced back to the 1950s. Its roots were in the United States in the field of systems theory, psychoanalysis, and cybernetics. This approach then spread to all of Europe, and later to the rest of the world. Over the years, the views represented have undergone many changes. The latest trends (postmodern, narrative therapy) emphasize treating the family or couple as partners. The reason for this is that they are actually the best experts on their own problems. According to this approach, clients work together with specialists as a team in order to achieve the desired change.

Who benefits the most from family therapy?

Family therapy is an ideal treatment option for example in the case of the following difficulties:

  • the child’s problems, e.g. anxiety or difficulty fitting in
  • divorce or divorced parents, formation of a new family
  • adoption
  • sibling jealousy
  • disagreements or difficulties with parenting
  • illness or loss of a family member Â
  • problems related to the behaviour of a family member

Price

60-minute online therapy – HUF 35,000 / session.

The price of the therapy can be paid in advance by bank transfer. In the event of a date change, the amount paid can be used within two months, after which it becomes non-refundable. In case of cancellation within 24 hours, the price of the reservation is non-refundable.

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